I’ve gotten the pleasure to spend some time with some cousins I haven’t seen in quite some time. I didn’t really grow up with them, but saw them during yearly family get togethers, weddings, and every other holiday. But they came to visit and are staying with me for about two weeks.
Something about my cousin who just finished graduate school made my gaydar bleep. He’s quite outspoken, so I didn’t want to ask him about being gay (he may be the type that would out me if I made the wrong move). But there were little clues here and there that told me that he just might be a brother.
I want to know if there is some secret handshake, some silent sign that I can make to let him know that if he is gay, he can talk to me about it. However, I don’t want to be so blatant that if he isn’t gay, the gesture will just pass him over. This is one of my goals this week–to let him know he’s not alone.