A Different Zone

The other night on the show The Twilight Zone the episode where the normal looking girl wanted surgery so that she could look like everyone else (have a pig nose) was on. I was watching it and wondering why she was considered ugly or deformed when actually she was quite pretty. The pig-nosed people then sent her away to live with the others who had her same feature. As her escort took her away he assured her that over time she would fit in, that she would be comfortable with the others who were just like her and soon she would forget the world where she once lived. It just reiterates the fact that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

As I started my journey of coming out, I found that I have come to accept myself. Through blog comments and supportive e-mail and supportive phone calls, I have grown to be more comfortable in my own skin. Last weekend I hung out with my straight friends on Friday and my gay ones on Saturday. Some of my straight crew know I am gay and have not treated me differently, not even censoring their icky talk of vagina.

I feel like I’ve grown as a person and that I’ve become more tolerant of differences in opinion and life’s views. I have stated before that these differences help make us unique and that personal growth should be celebrated rather than squashed. I have come to the understanding that most people are afraid of these differences because they themselves are not comfortable in their own skin. They are afraid that because of differences their own shortcoming or weakness will show. However, I believe quite the opposite, that if they recognize the differences their strengths will be highlighted.

I’m beginning to feel like my former self was in this wacky zone. And now this zone only exists as a distant memory.


10 Responses to “A Different Zone”

  1. Robert Says:

    Triumphant!!! 🙂

  2. Lemuel Says:

    That episode of the Twilight Zone is one of the best! It is a good discussion starter on how we perceive “beauty” and how we perceive ourselves. I am happy to read of your journey forward into understanding that you yourself are a beautiful person and to read that you are find others who understand and accept that beauty too.

  3. Steve Says:

    Hey, some memories are good to be remembered from a distance. You have come a long way, baby. Just don’t smoke Virginia Slims. Well, because that’s so gay. 😆

  4. Steven Says:

    What a revealing and poignant quote in the last paragraph. You have progressed nicely since the day of “opening your sunroof in your closet!” Kudos to you! 😀

  5. Urspo Says:

    good for you
    you will soon realize that you’ve been snoockered into thinking you are ‘one of the ugly one’s when in fact you are fabulous.

  6. Jim Says:

    I hope that felt as good to write as it did for me to read!
    Congrats! 🙂

  7. Brad73 Says:

    Honey, we just don’t do icky talk of vagina around here. Besides, how would one even *begin* to cook that?

  8. Steven (Canadian version) Says:

    Good for you John, I also feel that my past world is the wacky one and this gay skin is the one I fit into.

    Sorry, I nearly had a seizure when you used the word ‘vagina’, but I’m okay now, I have my cold cloth and ice water.

  9. ink2metal Says:

    hey john,

    you are well on your way to becoming who you want to be. just enjoy the friendship of your gay and straight friends and don’t worry about the people who don’t accept you for who you are.


  10. BruceCleveland Says:

    I have one thing to say!

    Congratulations!! It’s a long journey…but I am glad you are comfortable with your stay 😉

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