I’ve realized that no matter what you say, people are going to talk. If you talk to much, people are going to refute your testimony, if you don’t talk enough, people will fill in the gaps.
I don’t talk a lot at work. First of all, there is a lot to be done. I’m getting paid to work, so I finish my agenda. There are days when there is so much to do, I don’t even get a break to sit down and eat. And this is fine by me. I like to stay busy. So being busy means less social time. I do often have a meal with one or two co-workers, but that’s about it. And these are basically the only co-workers that I really communicate with–at work and outside of work. I’m not a snob, I just would rather accomplish certain goals and get things done.
It isn’t difficult to hear the things other co-workers say about one another, especially when others are out of ear shot or have the day off. There are all kinds of rumors that circulate because no one clears the air. So I wonder what is said about me? There is a little part of me that is curious. There is also a part of me that doesn’t care (well I care a little, otherwise I wouldn’t be venting here). I just wonder why people make the effort to either create a story (some don’t even have a foundation to stand on) or why they are so interested.
If a person doesn’t tell you something about their lives it’s because these things are personal and for the most part, maybe they just don’t want to take the time to explain anything to a stranger, or someone they consider just a co-w0rker. But of course, things wouldn’t be interesting unless you had something to talk about around the water cooler.