I recently binged a series on Netflix called “Eastsiders”. The show was originally a web series, but is available on Netflix. It’s really well written and I was able to binge it over a two day period. The episodes are short, but packed with amazing conversation and of course drama. The storyline follows a gay couple through their ups and downs.

I theorize and may be wrong, but I think the reason many of us have fumbled through relationships is because we never got to “binge” on our own love life. At least for my generation, the gays were shunned and our lifestyle was wrong. I was extremely closeted. I grew up as part of a generation that thought it wrong to be gay. While my friends got to fall in and out of love, I sat on the sidelines watching them navigate through their emotions. They learned what worked and what didn’t. I thought I would never get the chance to do the same.

Coming out later in life, I eventually did fall in and out of love. I am now in a long term relationship. I’m still navigating and I’m still fumbling. But I wonder how much better I could be had I had all that “practice”.

3 Responses to “Binging”

  1. anne marie in philly Says:

    my gay friends have been at a disadvantage in a str8-thinking world. to me, it seems the younger gays have it easier to meet and form relationships cause they are out and open. my older gay non-partnered friends are having trouble finding men their own age who are out.

  2. Steven Says:

    I often wonder that as well John, I think it’s one of the reasons that I’m still single. Time has run out on me I feel but it doesn’t do any good to look back, it’s too depressing. As for you, maybe you have been exactly where you are now. Honestly you have climbed mountains with the way you have embraced being gay and in a relationship. You have made an incredible journey from where you started, focus on that and be proud of yourself!

  3. Urspo Says:

    Some of us have had a lot of practice I can assure you.
    All the same it needs constant work – one never gets it right gay or straight.

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