Return To Normal

Every Sunday since the pandemic, my partner and I have logged onto our church services. We have belonged to this church since we made the move to Ohio. The church and its members have welcomed us with open arms. As we watch our priests, the organist and one congregation member have service in an empty space, I wonder what it will be like to be in that building again. I wonder if we will wear masks, separate ourselves with the measured six feet, nod our heads rather than hug during the peace.

When the pandemic started the bishop permitted very few parishioners to celebrate in person. We were all given a time and day when we could be in the actual building. As the positive numbers of covid grew, all in person celebration ceased and went virtual. It saddened me, as I love praying together as a community. There is a camaraderie and comfort being with my church family.

We still do the after service coffee hour, albeit via zoom. It’s nice to see everyone’s face and talk about our weekly struggles, highs and lows. I miss the hugs, the smiles and exchange of stories. I miss the friendly banter and teasing. It is like living in a different state, although we are only a few miles apart. We have dinners with them, but only a few at a time (of course less than six–those friends with children rarely come out due to baby sitting issues). The most we have gathered with is the magic number 6.

I saw a meme that said “check on your extroverted friends”. That’s me. I’m extroverted. My partner is a homebody. I am lucky that many of my friends continually text or now call. When we were able to see each other for spontaneous dinner, lunch or coffee dates, I only heard from them via random texts. A text no longer satisfies our need for contact, we now have to hear one another’s voices.

I think if anything, the pandemic has gotten me to reassess what is important. It is a lesson in knowing what I value, who I love and what I want.

14 Responses to “Return To Normal”

  1. anne marie in philly Says:

    I miss seeing my friends in person too. but phone calls and websites have to do for now. this too shall pass.

  2. Mistress Borghese Says:

    Oh dear….If i entered a church it may crumble! LOL Im kidding. I think. But I agree with your post. During this time I have really seen and has some eye opening moments. I intend to post about it but still collecting my thoughts. Being a extrovert too, I’m very social…many of my friends call and text regularly. There were a few dark days.

  3. David R Snyder Says:

    I miss going to the movies more than anything. I went a lot, I think what the pandemic has done more than anything is that those will to adapt to change will survive. But then, hasn’t this always been the way?

    • johnmichael42003 Says:

      David, now the song “I Will Survive” is running through my head. But yes, we adapt. We change and hopefully this will change us for the better. I am a believer in what doesn’t break us, strengthens us.

  4. Sixpence Notthewiser Says:

    It’s been complicated, to say the least. I’m not too social but I’m not a homebody. I miss movies and museums and concerts, though. I miss crate diving for records and going thrifting.
    I can imagine that after having the social outlet of church for so long you should miss it. I haven’t been to church probably in more than ten years. LoL
    Cant say I miss it.


    P.S. blogger is a nightmare! I don’t know why it doesn’t let you post.

  5. Matt Shifley Says:

    I am a homebody as well so I have been OK through this whole thing. I do miss going to the movies but I also would go to them by myself because it doesn’t bother to be by myself in the theater. I hope you are able to continue to find connections to help you stay sane and not get blue. Hang in there and happy weekend.

    • johnmichael42003 Says:

      I do Matt and I really shouldn’t whine. My partner is here and he does try and find ways to keep me entertained..binging Netflix or Hulu. Or even just little trips in the car, to explore Columbus (even if we don’t get out of the car). I think I’m being childish. Since we are told “don’t do this”, we want to do that.

  6. Urspo Says:

    well said; many feel the same way.

    • johnmichael42003 Says:

      And I know I should count certain blessings. Technology has made remaining social and involved possible. I guess I just miss the physicality of being at certain places and with my circle of friends and family.

  7. Tom Thompson Says:

    The blog entry sounds like St. James Episcopal Church down the street…. a very warming congregation ..

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