One of the things that has helped me has been getting out of my home. It started with a college friend insisting that we have dinner. She wasn’t taking no for answer and so I relented. When I got into the car she asked how I was doing and during a hug, the tears came.
Dinner I thought would be horrific because being out in public and the thought I would break down had my anxiety shoot up. But my friend asked for an out of the way booth in the back. And I just talked–did a lot of the talking in fact. It was good to be out…off the couch and not in pajamas.
And that was all it took. I started accepting coffee meetings, lunches and dinner. And it’s Sunday now. And I have been out and about.
The smiles that friends and loved ones had on their faces when I walked through doors or met them was exactly what my heart needs to help me heal.
January 24, 2021 at 8:41 pm |
I am quite glad you have this.
January 26, 2021 at 4:18 pm |
I didn’t realize how much social interactions helped until she insisted that I come out with her.
January 24, 2021 at 9:16 pm |
So good for you to be out and talking with friends.
January 26, 2021 at 4:18 pm |
Yes Bob, it was so good. Crying and laughing at the same time helped with some emotions.
January 24, 2021 at 9:38 pm |
if you lived closer, I would meet you for coffee/lunch/brunch/etc. it is good you have friends that care about you. you are in my thoughts often.
January 26, 2021 at 4:20 pm |
Oh, I would definitely take you up on the outing, for sure.
January 25, 2021 at 12:52 am |
Good people will always help. I don’t know if you know or not, but that beautiful little ballad was written by Englands comic genius Charlie Chaplin, who knew a lot about both tears and laughter
January 26, 2021 at 4:20 pm |
David, I had heard that Chaplin wrote this. It’s such a beautiful song. And I play it often these days.
January 25, 2021 at 3:00 am |
Yay!
So glad to read this. Good friends are the best.
XOXO
January 26, 2021 at 4:21 pm |
Yes, good friends are the sprinkles on life (I got that or paraphrased that from a book).
January 25, 2021 at 5:27 am |
Good that you have a support system available.
Piggybacking on David R. Snyder said, “Smile” is the theme music to Chaplin’s 1936 classic, Modern Times, though the lyrics came later.
January 26, 2021 at 4:21 pm |
It’s such a beautiful song right? The lyrics and all.
January 25, 2021 at 11:37 pm |
I am glad you have an outlet. I downloaded Josh Groban’s version to listen to when I was feeling down about my cancer diagnosis. It helps.
January 26, 2021 at 4:22 pm |
Josh Groban’s version is definitely on constant play these days. And it does help!
January 29, 2021 at 11:22 pm |
It is great to hear this, JM. I hope the healing and meetings with friends continues.
February 1, 2021 at 2:45 pm |
Yes. There is healing being around my friends. And I’m grateful for them.
January 31, 2021 at 6:03 pm |
Camaraderie during the most difficult of times is uplifting, I’m glad some Healing it taking place of the Numbness. The Stages of Grief can be difficult to bear alone.
February 1, 2021 at 2:47 pm |
I find myself going through certain phases. Some where I am numb, others where this overwhelming sense of anxiety kicks in. Others where I am just sad. It’s this rollercoaster that I want to slow down, a ticket I never bought.