It’s No Sacrifice

It’s the season of Lent. As a former Catholic, now Episcopalian, we use to give up something for Lent. As a kid, I gave up things like chocolate, candy, playing video games. At the end of the 40 days, I would have been rewarded–an Easter basket full of candy/chocolate, a new video game, my favorite flavored potato chips if that’s what I gave up.

Several years ago, I had dinner with one of the bishops. It was a Sunday and as dessert was being passed around, I declined stating I gave it up for Lent. The bishop had turned to me and said something to the effect that Sundays don’t count, that we could have the thing we gave up on Sundays.

My partner explained to me that he didn’t believe in giving up anything for Lent because we just went back to it after Easter. Instead he was more pro-active. He would read a self-help book, or would pray more, something he thought would better himself. The argument was is it really a sacrifice? Was giving up something only to go back to it really helping? I guess it could have shown some self control, but I think he had a point.

I miss him. And I now he’s in a better place. I continue to ponder many of his ideals and think, my life was better because of him.

8 Responses to “It’s No Sacrifice”

  1. anne marie in philly Says:

    smart man; what a compliment to your partner.
    ex-catholic here also. I give up nothing; why the hell should I?

  2. Sixpence Notthewiser Says:

    Awww it’s so sweet you think about him in those terms! So inspiring.
    And I don’t do Lent. As a lapsed catholic, I relish on not following any of the rules they tried to instill in me for twenty years.


  3. mcpersonalspace54 Says:

    I grew up Episcopalian too. I don’t attend services anymore, but as a kid I went every Sunday. I would pray for God to help me be normal.

  4. David R Snyder Says:

    Your partner was right, it isn’t a sacrifice, it’s more like show and tell for 40 days.

  5. Kirk Says:

    Apart from the fact that I believe God is unknowable and as such don’t belong to any religion, life imposes its own limitations. Why give up the pleasures that manage to make the cut? Unless those pleasures are somehow causing you harm , like smoking. Then you want to give them up permanently.

  6. Urspo Says:

    often being the last in line here I get the pleasure to read the comment before me and smile to read you have lovely support.

  7. Steve Says:

    You are so strong buddy, I’m just catching up with your journey. I’m still in shock as I only found out this morning. My belief has always been that you two were meant to be together, no matter the amount of time, you were meant to be together. If only I could hug you tight.

  8. Matt Shifley Says:

    Lovely post today. JM. I really enjoyed reading it. Take care and keep being positive.

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